God created man in His own image and likeness, and from that point on the devil has worked at taking this away from him. The first major mistake of a man came when he allowed himself to be influenced by his wife’s own mistake.
Our God is not known as the God of Sarah, Rebecca and Rachel. I’m not being sexist when I say this, but it’s important to understand that while we live in a society of equal rights, our roles are not equal. A real man understands that he is the provider and protector of his home. He should have the final word, be the head, and make decisions. But day after day we see men handing over their responsibilities to women. In many cases, they support the home.
Because of this, you need to:
One – Be a Real Man
We rarely see married women wasting hours on video games, going out to bars or enjoying a game while her husbands are at home with the children. But we often hear women complain about their husbands spending more time with their friends than they do with them... or in front of the TV or computer. It’s so disappointing because the man she married is behaving like a boy.
You need to ask yourself: Am I a real man? Have I assumed my role as a man?
Two – Be the Man your Wife expects you to be
Women want to feel safe and protected. They want to participate in decisions, but at the same time they want their husbands to be decisive, even when it rubs them the wrong way. A husband cannot ignore his responsibilities as husband and father. He has to show love, give attention, motivate and encouragement. A woman does not get married simply to have a sexual partner, she wants more, she wants a real man by her side.
Your wife is using up her life an energy in an effort to pay the bills, when you should be daily determining to free her from this difficult life and provide her with a life that even her parents could not afford.
Ask yourself this question: Am I the man that my wife wants me to be? Am I ever worried that she may become so dissatisfied that she will leave me?
Three – Be a Man of God
Obedience makes a man, a man of God. Many husbands hide behind their wives’ faith. In modern times God has a hard time finding "Abrahams". It’s easier to find women of faith than men of faith. Where are the brave warriors? Where are the men of prayer, faith and trust in God? I’ve never seen a wife complain about a man that’s too obedient to God, because that proves that you are the real man she’s always needed… because you obey God.
Ask yourself this question: Have I ever obeyed God and made a real sacrifice? Am I sick and tired of disappointing myself, my wife and God? If so, get out of the cave, stop being complacent and make a sacrifice to God. It’s time to become the "Gideon" that’s inside of you!
Pastor Walber Barbosa